how do you develop more grit if you haven't heard lately the grit is supposed to be the secret to all of success in life we'll talk about that in a moment but it's a good conversation to have today about how do you develop the ability to have grit so you succeed over the long term if you haven't heard Angela Duckworth wrote a book called grit and her formula was very simple if you have lots of passion and you persevere chasing that passion over a long time you will have success now of course a little more complicated than that is why she wrote a book on a couple hundred pages long and a fantastic book I highly recommend to you especially if you're brand new to personal development if you're not new to personal development or to science you will not be all that surprised by the findings which is basically the ideas of knowing what you want and working really hard towards it over really long time is a big part of that formula but there's a lot of misunderstandings too in my own perspective grit is not enough to have success because grit is something that you are being something that you are doing but I also think that beyond just grit you have to have a lot of influence with people the world's most successful people that I've met are phenomenal in their level of social intelligence and their ability to influence others to support them in their cause or dream if they couldn't communicate well and influence others to support them or believe in them or buy from them then they wouldn't succeed at levels they did so grit usually doesn't take into account the concepts of influence so I would say it's not the end-all be-all but it is a very important concept that we all need to develop again Angela Duckworth research basically says that grit is passion and perseverance if you study my work for a long time you've heard me just use the phrase or the term tenacity it's about knowing what you want and going for you know having that hunger inside and matching it with hard work over the long term to continuously improve to continuously commit to continuously get better and deliver and serve but let me share with you today four big ideas that might help you develop a little bit more of this fancy stuff called grit number one get clarity if grit begins with passion you need to know what you're interested in and more importantly what you love and you need to be clear about what you want now one major reasons a lot of people don't feel successful is that they might not know exactly what they are really wanting and working towards that each day they don't feel like they're engaged in meaningful endeavors so the passion isn't there and because the passion isn't there the stick-to-itiveness isn't there either and so they're not hanging on to what's important to them they're not sticking with something and so let me ask you this what do you really want now you know you've been through enough you've been through many years of your life you've fought and you struggled and I bet you've given up some things and you've stuck to some things but what do you want now because you know now maybe the kids are gone they're out of the house and off to college or maybe now you've been laid off or you've got that new job opportunity or you started your own business or you're about to scale to that next level what do you want now what do you want for this next phase of your life chapter 2 stage 2 phase 2 whatever you call it you got to have some kind of level of clarity about what you want because that clarity is that ambition that goal that dream that desire that thing that becomes a passion because you have that deep commitment and attachment to moving toward something so one figure out what you want now and invite I invite you do this in all areas of your life what do you want in your health now what do you want in your relationships now what do you want for your career in your contributions now what are your real dreams now number two big idea is to prime enthusiasm each day I believe the master emotion of all life is enthusiasm if you're enthusiastic about something you're engaged with it if you're enthusiastic about something you feel energized for it if you're enthusiastic about something you look forward to waking up tomorrow and going forth so prime that feeling day the way that I do that is every morning in the shower when I'm getting ready I think what could I be excited about for today what could I have enthusiasm for today and if I can't come up with anything off the top of my head or by looking at my schedule I create it I said okay what could I do today that would be fun and make me look forward to the day maybe it's prank a friend maybe it's do something good for somebody maybe it's something I'm gonna do that I just really enjoy that won't be I won't spend a lot of time during the day but I'm gonna give myself 30 minutes doing a passion small little project I'm interested in whatever it is prime enthusiasts because if you have that feeling of enthusiasm that's what's going to keep you passionate over long term and please listen you need to prime your enthusiasms every day see a lot of people are very passionate people but they're not living passionately because every day they're not engaging with what they want you know they set the big goal at New Year's but then February and April rolls around they forgotten about but the reason they were so excited in January that the New Year why is everyone excited they're priming enthusiasm they're looking at their goals they're having an emotional connection and commitment to that and that excites them for the year so what you need to do is look at your goals every day what you need to do is every day write the things down and important to it get excited about doing that implementing that experience again and go for it number three most important in my belief for grit is the concept of block time if you study high performance Academy with us over the last decade or so you know this is central to everything I teach block time if you don't schedule time for practice schedule time for training schedule time to implement schedule time to get your work done you don't get it done and now you're just pulled into all these different areas so now you're just reacting to the world all the time reaction reaction reaction distraction distraction distraction and now you don't have any grit to stick to something because you don't stick to that which is not scheduled so if it's not scheduled you don't stick to it right it just becomes something you're so passionate about for a week or two but then the world comes back in with its requests and its obligations your responsibilities and suddenly the very thing that you were so passionate and enthusiastic about it goes away see the world's highest level of performers that I'm blessed to work with Olympians fortune 50 CEOs billionaires people who have a real track record of long-term success they worked at something every single day I mean it's just part of their repertoire it was a routine a ritual something that was scheduled every day they were working towards it doesn't mean they didn't have days off I guess I should say but they had it as part of a consistent part of their life and it was scheduled there was a block of time on their calendar it was like world you know highest level athletes as a swimmer it's like swim practice here here here here here here here it's constant it never went away they had grit because it was scheduled if it's not scheduled it becomes a passing interest when it is scheduled it becomes a clear commitment so block down the time if you don't have if I show up at your house and we pulled up your calendar and we looked at it and nowhere in your calendar or any of your passions nowhere in your calendar are your goals your implementation plans what you want to create then what you're doing is just reacting just following the whim of the world and over a period of time you'll lose that passion and genuine desire because you know passion is something you got to be on top of it's like lose it or use it or lose it kind of thing so please block time to work on things that you really care about and then last piece that I think is missing in a lot of the conversations around grit these days is enlist a team the highest level performers ever worked with in my life they are great at structuring a support team they've got people around them to support them in their desires they've got coaches mentors trainers supportive parents and amazing team supporting them and it wasn't like they were lucky to be born into that family real people with real success habits not just conceptually not just some from psychological study the people I work with on the ground in real life you know what they do they are influencers as I talked about the top of this conversation they are amazingly talented at influencing other people to believe in them to invest in them to follow them to train them to coach them to support them along the journey they're not just showing up as the singular brilliant superstar genius that's what we all like to believe that these people are so lucky that successful people are just these lone wolves who are geniuses the reality is environment matters and you have to set up a positive environment around you to enable you to pursue your passions to enable you to persist when it gets hard for so that people can pick you up when you fall down you become more resilient the better or social support you set up around you and guess what you can't do that unless you become somebody who is sharing your true thoughts feelings desires and dreams without people you need to speak your truth you need to ask for help you need to enlist other people around you you need prime their enthusiasm to support you because without a support team around you you're always going to plateau you know just like if you ever had a personal trainer at the gym right you thought you could only go so far and you're like I'm done and they're like give me five more you like okay and you do it that's life - for the long haul and that's why you need that as a success have enlist a team I hope these ideas helped you get a little more gritty get you more excited about going out there and crushing it they're all basic concepts but you know what common sense is not always common practice and that's why so many potentially great people fail to reach their potential so stay gritty know that it takes a lot of hard work to maintain a long-term level of success follow the four ideas in this episode and you'll start to see and experience a little more what we call the charge life hey my friend it's Brendan I hope you enjoyed this episode do me two favors number one subscribe to this channel so they continue to get updates every time I release new training for you and number two if you would like to get ahead a little faster in life what I'd like to do is 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