You are on the right track. Recall that a relation on $A$ is irreflexive if it does not contain any of the diagonal elements $(a,a), a \in A$.
Fix $a \in A$ and take $R$ to be the singleton set $\\{(a,a)\\}$ and $S$ to be the empty set. Then $R$ and $S$ are symmetric relations but their symmetric difference contains a diagonal element, and hence is not irreflexive. Thus the symmetric difference of two symmetric relations is not irreflexive in general. This gives a counterexample and hence disproves the statement that the symmetric difference of symmetric relations is irreflexive.
Note that if we take $R$ and $S$ to be arbitrary symmetric relations that do not contain any diagonal elements (for eg $R=\\{(a,b),(b,a)\\}=S$), then their symmetric difference would be missing all the diagonal elements, and this makes the symmetric difference irreflexive. Thus, the given implication does hold in some special cases.