why are you flinching stringbean don't miss us your girl that's a nice lad Balu sir can I see it Thanks I lost mine a couple of weeks ago it's really nice of me to give ears I didn't give it to you what are you gonna do about loser nothing that's what I thought see you tomorrow steering hey Colin are you okay I'm fine we should do something he can't get away with this no one's not only make things worse I don't want everyone to think on his house so I have to go wait hang on Colin hey everybody I'm coach those at commencement and I'm here today to talk to you about a serious issue bullying bullying is just a part of life or a rite of passage its destructive and it's wrong now I can't step away alone but together we can send a message that bullying is unacceptable how do I deal with bullies the best way to do employees is avoid them altogether when a bully confronts you stay calm and walk away if the bully makes it impossible for you to avoid or escape then it's time to begin adult tell your parents teachers or the principal unfortunately the first person you tell might not do anything they're not listening and keep speaking up until you find somebody who was telling an adult does not make you a tattletale snatch your cry-baby those just words and bullies will use it can be quiet bullying is a serious problem and needs to be handled by adults is there something wrong with me there is absolutely nothing wrong with you you don't deserve to be picked you're not stupid fat loser or whatever other hurtful things you've been called the bully only has the power that you give so the less you show it's bothering you the more likely the bully is to leave you long what will I do if I see someone else being bullied if you see someone else being bullied then you need to get an adult the last thing you want to do if you see big time his laugh with his laughing only encouraged his bullying and makes the person being picked on feel worse remember you wouldn't want anyone laughing if it was you being bullied simply asking the person being picked I'm if they're okay can make a big difference coach Kozak ever get bullied when I started the sixth grade I had zero friends somehow I make friends with one of the popular kids and he let me sit at their hip and lunch they actually sat in order of popularity with the two coolest kids getting to decide their own LSAT well I was a barely loud to sit at the table so that meant I had to sell weed out the end even though they were supposedly my friends they would constantly pick on me call me names make me feel worthless hey you forgot to do the dishes again I'm sorry mom maybe if you weren't so fat and stupid you'd remember myself sorry mom sorry isn't going to cut it when your dad gets home you loser me get down here as long as bullying is it doesn't make you a bad person if you're a bully then you have the power to change first trying to figure out why a bully is there something making you feel miserable are you being picked on by your classmates or a family member do you feel left out or lonely in school does something make you feel angry jealous or frustrated do you hang out with the gang of bullies how do I stop bullying is something that your life is made me miserable it caused me to act like the boy there is time to make a decision to tackle a problem after you figure out why you bully make a plan to figure out what you do instead of bullying before you speak or act stop and then for 10 seconds and ask yourself if you'd like to be treated the way you treated others you should apologize to anyone you've bullied in the past not only won't make you feel better but you're probably making your friend death coach cosac every bully anyone I desperately wanted to be cool so I started picking out other kids I thought that if I picked out other kids it might make me feel better about being bullied but it didn't know it actually just made me feel worse I hate you too I too become because that wasn't what I wasn't all about bullying would make me cool but the truth is I never had fewer real friends is when I was a bully there's one a really important phrase that I wish you let go and that's strong people don't put others down can I talk to you about sure sweetie what's on your mind well it's about there's some boy at school just won't leave him alone I know it's really bothering Colin but I don't know what to do well you already took the first step in the right direction by telling me next it's important that you just be there for calling to ask him if he's okay I did that good Chuck Jacob next when you see bullying take place don't try to fight instead you need to go get an adult nothing will stop a bullet like a teacher or principal okay mom but Colin didn't want me to he doesn't want to be a tattletale there's a huge difference between tattling and telling if you're tattling you're just trying to get someone in trouble if you're telling a grown-up about a problem with bullying then you're not tattling you're trying to help someone you understand yes mom it's me good sweetie why don't you go get cleaned up for dinner I'm going to go get a teacher wait did you guys I'm actually here to apologize I'm sorry for taking your iPod and picking at you I am really not a bad person I just haven't been very happy lately and I guess I was taking it out on you but the truth is I always regret it afterwards Thanks hey we were going to go play some basketball do you want to come in and play really yeah sounds good well what are we waiting for come on let's go I can't Nick up my team