Hey Dude it's Andrew back again with part 4 in our series on texting tinder and online dating in the last video I taught you how to start a conversation with any girl you meet on a dating app or site that you might be using in this video I'll show you how to keep that conversation going over text message and how to do it in a way that's fun and attractive and it gets her to say yes to going out on a date with you now there's a lot of different ways you can flirt with a girl over text so many different ways that I actually wrote an entire book on the topic and I'll tell you how to get that later but for right now I'm gonna give you one of the absolute best techniques out of my book this is one of the best ways to flirt with a girl over text message whether you've met her before or if you haven't even met her in person yet and it's gonna get her chasing you and excited to meet up with you in person and it's also easy for any guy to do this right away in a lot of common situations you'll run into all the time here's what you're gonna do you're gonna take something that a girl expects you to say because every guy says it and you're gonna put a fun clever charming little twist on it and I'll show you how to do that in a second see when a guy in a girl first meet what do they always do they make small talk well small talk is a boring pattern-based conversation where you say the same boring things that you've said to every boring stranger you've ever met and never remembered like oh where you from what do you do how about this weather whoa dude screw that nobody cares about the weather and this is your chance to rise above the typical mediocre conversation that every girl is used to having show her how much better it feels to text and talk with a guy who knows how to make life fun and exciting so here's a rule and I want you to remember it never waste a text on something boring when you can easily write something interesting instead and this is especially crucial when you're first starting a text conversation with a girl even more so if you've never met in person yet every text is make-or-break important it's so easy these days to lose someone's attention and never get it back again but it's also easy to show them that you're fun and you have personality and you to be a fun date so here's what you're gonna do here are I'll give you a lot of exam and how this works for example let's say she texts you something boring and you know she will because everyone is just trained to say this stuff don't just answer her right away think about it for a second and then give her an unexpected and flirtatious answer for example I'm talking to this girl here on tinder and she says where do you live well most people would just immediately tell the answer I live in New Orleans and all you're really doing in that situation is giving her logical data point a fact and you know what everyone does that it doesn't make her feel anything nobody gets turned on and excited by exchanging data points unless you're some kind of robot or Android or computer in which case that's kind of kinky tell me about it later but the point is when someone says something standard and boring like where do you live you can put a twist on it before you give them the real answer and it'll set you apart from every other guy and actually make her smile and be like who is this guy it's I'm kind of curious to know more and that's all attraction is I'm curious to know more so this girl says where do you live I said in the moment and you know occasionally in New Orleans it shows that I'm not taking this that seriously I'm having fun here's another example let's say a girl says what are you up to instead of just telling her what you're doing let's say you're cooking dinner instead of just saying oh I'm cooking dinner you could just say oh you mean aside from daydreaming about you uh-huh not much just cooking oh you mean aside from doing something flirty and awesome and cool just insert something in there that's fun and flirtatious here's another example girl says hell where are you from isn't it more about where you're going just just kidding I'm from Dallas it's always good after you make a joke or something to actually give the real answer and show them that you're you're not [ __ ] with them you're just having a good time and you're inviting her to have fun with you here's another example let's say a girl says how's your day going instead of just telling her the answer oh it's it's going great thanks for asking which is so polite and boring tell her how it's going for example a girl texted me that recently and I said well Rick and Morty season 3 just came out plus I'm actually texting this really cute and nerdy girl right now so I'd say my dates going perfect so far how about you makes sense when you're texting a girl you always have a little bit of time to think of something above-average to sender so use that time this is gonna make all the difference between a fun conversation that actually leads somewhere or a really boring forgettable conversation that dies in the first few minutes even better you don't have to wait around for her to say something boring before you spice up the small talk you can use the same technique in your messages to her so examples of things you might text a girl so what are you up to today aside from daydreaming and writing about me and your diary of course something flirty instead of just saying what are you up to today and asking her to tell you asking her to give you an answer and carry the conversation give her something flirty that will at least make her smile and remind her that you and her are interested in each other that you might go out on a date that you're attracted to each other and you can do that in a way that's playful and charming and boyish here's another example hey so what are your plans tonight and how can we add more adventure to that how adventurous are you on a scale from 1 to let's get in a bar fight right now or hey how's your night going and how mad are you that you're not here having the best time ever with me right now hey what are you up to let me guess you're watching Fifty Shades of Grey and writing about me and your diary again okay I'd say that one a lot actually it's just cute and silly and boyishly charming and it assumes that the girl is thinking about you and obsessing over you it's a very childish way of flirting with somebody it's funny girls love that another one a girl just told me recently that she recently moved to town so I said oh what made you move here aside from our super hot forbidden love affair obviously again it's over-the-top it's funny it's obviously not serious but it's spicing up boring lame questions and making them fun and interesting which is how dating is supposed to be and most people don't get that they want someone fun and exciting but they don't know how to create that fun and girls will flock to you when they realize that you're the kind of guy who can create that you're not that serious you're just having fun and enjoying life and they want to be around somebody who feels that way so that's how you spice up bore small talk conversation and show a girl that you're a fun guy who would be a really fun person to go on a date with just remember don't ask lame questions assume awesome things about you and her hanging out together and having a great time if you liked this tip go ahead and like this video and subscribe to the channel right now so you get every new video right when it comes out then click to the next video and I'll teach you what to do if a girl stops responding to your messages because I'll be honest with you man even if you're totally perfect and awesome and you have a beard and a YouTube channel and your name is Andrew who even if you're perfect girls are still gonna be flaky over text no matter what you do they're gonna be slow to get back to you sometimes they'll even stop responding to you altogether for no reason at all and it sucks when that happens but there are a few things you can do to fix it and I'll tell you what they are in the next video so like this video subscribe to this channel and get ready for the next video part 5