hey guys so I'm going to be covering a few topics I found reading the book 50 things every young gentleman should know by John bridges and Brian Curtis I'd like to say that most of these tips are manners and etiquette and many of the ladies watching could benefit from this video also now this video is going to be a bit different as I'm going to offer many tips instead of just explaining big ideas the first is saying please now we probably all take saying please for granted a young gentleman says please whenever he is asking someone for something whether that is an item a favor or even advice not only is it a polite but it also removes the possibility of sounding rude or sarcastic when you're asking for something also never ever think that just because someone is doing their job that they don't deserve appreciation and a kind please just because hotel maids are paid to clean your room it doesn't hurt to ask them please to do something or especially thank them which is our next tip as a gentleman in today's world you're bound to receive all kinds of compliments the best way you can accept a compliment is to say thank you you don't need to go on and on thanking them for thanking you certainly don't brush them off either if you recently got a haircut and someone compliments you on it don't say oh the missus made me get it or yeah but they missed a spot in the back simply look them straight in the eyes and thank them another way of thinking someone is by writing them a handwritten letter these are grossly underestimated in today's electronic world my grandmother still has conversations with me through snail mail and I think it's pretty cool I applied and received a job at a local factory a few months ago and I wrote the CEO a handwritten letter thanking him for the job opportunity I did this because I read the advice out of one of the books I've been reading and I wanted to try it out a couple days later he walks in shakes my hand and starts expressing his gratitude he starts talking about the last time he received a letter like this and we had a pretty cool conversation now this was a great networking opportunity for me that not very many other people who receive the job would have you should always write letters on special note cards and not on the old crinkly notebook paper I recommend finding something you appreciate in someone and writing them a note at least once a week and especially for anyone who buys you a meal or gives you tons of value it means a lot and is more impressionable and lasts longer than any email now let's talk about excusing yourself young gentlemen notice step out of a room if they have to pass gas also when you're excusing yourself from a crowd you can try to alternate between excuse me and pardon me to avoid awkward repetitive words and when you're calling someone don't yell things like hey hey you instead say excuse me when trying to get someone's attention a tip the book gives is to learn the cultural and regional ways to address different people titles such as ma'am sir and madam can go a long way if the person is not used to it when you're introducing to people always try to introduce the younger person to the older person instead of saying hey John this is my dad say hey dad this is my friend John and if you can add something interesting to make the introduction memorable and exciting also when you're shaking hands always allow the older person or a lady to stick their hand out first and when you're sitting always stand up to shake someone's hand this is simply a respect statement if for some reason you can't shake hands right now explain why for example you might have grease on your fingers from fixing a motorcycle lastly never ever make a comment about someone's handshake unless they bring it up first don't comment on their overly strong or overly weak handshake as this could come off food when a gentleman receives a gift he enjoys he kindly thinks the giver a gentleman never says statements such as oh you shouldn't have the same goes for any gift that gentleman doesn't like they respectfully thank the giver as the gentleman knows that a gift from the heart is way more valuable than one from the wallet the book says to never compare gifts as it can hurt feelings and cause bitterness between people when a gentleman is winning a game they never flaunt their victory and when they are losing they don't throw a fit either way the game goes a gentleman always thinks the opposing side at the end of the game another thing I could relate to in this book is that a gentleman doesn't give up halfway through a game even when it is completely obvious who the winner is always give a hundred percent as a gentleman one thing that all great gentleman known is for their appearance keep your nails trimmed in your hair cut fashionably learn how to iron dress clothes if you don't already know and learn a couple different ways to tie a tie also the book says not to feel ashamed if you aren't good at matching clothes simply ask someone else for their opinion or you can head over to the subreddit male fashion advice for tips and tricks on dressing well a gentleman knows it's okay to compliment the other gender even if they're in a relationship especially if the person they're complimenting is doing a great job at something a gentleman will jump to hold the door open for any especially if it's a car door and a lady is writing and a gentleman always puts the seat down always lastly I'd like to talk about movie theater etiquette the goal of a movie theater is to enjoy the movie a gentleman is always thinking of others and must think ahead when they're watching a movie make sure to avoid drinking lots of liquids or spicy food before a movie to avoid constant bathroom breaks if you're sick and have a terrible cough consider postponing the movie or sit by the door to leave quicker and also a gentleman makes sure to arrive early and turn off their phone now I'd like to say that I hardly covered 25 of the 50 tips in this book but I believe anyone who takes these steps for on the right path to becoming a great gentleman if you enjoyed this video click the like button if you want to watch my review of the Art of Manliness coming up soon subscribe thanks for watching and you might want to check out my video on no more mr. nice guy and some of my other videos on my channel I hope you enjoyed you