> I'm not sure if i should be using one-tailed or two-tailed test.
Yes, a two-tailed test is correct because the maximum amount consumed by men can be more or less than that of women. Experimentally, you should establish the rejection region _before_ you collect the data, and as it is possible in theory at least that men could drink less than women, you should include that.
In general, the two-sided test is typically viewed as a better way to perform a hypothesis test, because the one-sided test makes it easier to reject the null hypothesis after you get the data by choosing the single big rejection region to be on the side the data suggests.
> I'm also not sure if my t.05 value is correct.
For $\alpha=0.05$, yes, $1.96$ is the $97.5$th percentile of the null distribution.