You seem to be struggling with anti0symmetry and Transitivity.
OK, first anti-symmetry.
Anti-symmetric is that for any $a \
eq b$: if $aRb$, then not $bRa$
This is vacuously satisfied for both the AND and the IF AND ONLY IF, since in both cases you simply don't have any $aRb$ with $a$ and $b$ distinct in the first place. So, both are anti-symmetric.
But, they are also symmetric. Like you say: it's mirrored by the diagonal
And yes, it's confusing that something can be symmetrical as well as anti-symmetrical ... but this is what the definitions are, and they are both symmetric and anti-symmetric.
OK, then transitivity:
For transitivity we need:
For any $a,b,c$:L if $aRb$ and $bRc$, then $aRc$
OK, I'll just do the AND, and I'll let you do the others.
Now, for AND, the only time we have $aRb$ and $bRc$ is when $a=b=c=1$. And, we do have $1R1$, i.e. we do have $aRc$ in that case. So, we're good, and the AND is therefore indeed transitive.