1. It is normal to have a multiple backup version, if you delete the old tar file you can not extract/restore from it anymore.
2. in order to extract you can issue the below command:
tar --extract --verbose --verbose --listed-incremental=/dev/null --file=2021-11-23-23-34-38.tar
I suppose here you want to restore from the file " 2021-11-23-23-34-38.tar "
3. Regarding your 3rd point in order to find a specific file to extract you can list
tar --list --verbose --verbose --listed-incremental=/home/blueray/Documents/backup/dest/usr.snar --file=2021-11-23-23-34-38.tar