(1) as (1a) the two married plus 3 out of the remaining 9 plus (1b) 5 out of the 9 excluding the married.
(2) as (2a) one of the two plus 4 out of the remaining 9 (excluding 1 and her enemy) plus 2(b) the same again for the other of the two.
(1a) = 1. $^9C_3$ = $9!/3!.6!$ = 84
(1b) = $^9C_5$ = $9!/5!. 4!$ = 18
(1) = 102.
(2) = $2. ^9C_4$ = $2. 9!/5!.4!$ = 36.