The limit must be one of the three critical points. At these points you have $\frac{dx}{dt} = \frac{dy}{dt} = 0$. You've calculated these to be (-1, 1), (0,0), and (1,-1).
The point (0,0) is a repellor, the other two points are attractors. Looking at the contour plot you made (better yet, use a direction field or Mathematica's StreamPlot), you can see that (1, -1/2) is in the basin of attraction of (1,-1).
So the limit is (1,-1).