The "missing term" in the OP comes from applying the product rule for differentiating
> $$\
abla (\phi \psi)=\phi \
abla(\psi)+\
abla(\phi)\psi \tag 1$$
and
> $$\
abla \cdot(\phi \vec A)=\phi \
abla\cdot(\vec A)+\
abla(\phi)\cdot \vec A \tag 2$$
Note that we can write
$$\begin{align} \
abla^2(\vec u\vec v)&=\hat x_i\hat x_j\
abla^2 (u_iv_j)\\\\\\\ &=\hat x_i\hat x_j\
abla \cdot \
abla(u_iv_j)\\\\\\\ &=\hat x_i\hat x_j\
abla \cdot (u_i\
abla (v_j) + \
abla(u_i)v_j )\tag 3\\\\\\\ &=\hat x_i\hat x_j \left(u_i\
abla^2(v_j)+2\
abla (u_i)\cdot \
abla (v_j)+v_j\
abla ^2(u_i)\right)\tag 4\\\\\\\ &=\vec u\
abla^2(\vec v)+2\
abla(\vec u)\cdot \
abla(\vec v)+\vec v\
abla ^2(\vec u) \end{align}$$
as was to be shown!
Note that we applied $(1)$ with $\phi =u_i$ and $\psi=v_j$ to arrive at $(3)$ and applied $(2)$ with $\phi= u_i$ ($\phi= v_j$)and $\vec A=\
abla v_j$ ($\vec A=\
abla u_i$) to arrive at $(4)$.