The volume element $d \mu_{\xi}$ itself is a 1-form that lives on the line $\xi: \xi_1 x_1 +\xi_2 x_2 -p = 0$, not on $\mathbb{R}^2$. In the equation: $$ dx_1 dx_2 = d(\xi_1 x_1 +\xi_2 x_2 -p) d\mu_{\xi} $$ the $d \mu_{\xi}$ should be interpreted as any 1-form on $\mathbb{R}^2$ whose pullback onto $\xi$ coincides with the original $d \mu_{\xi}$. You can either use $\frac{dx_1}{|\xi_2|}$ or $\frac{dx_2}{|\xi_1|}$ for that purpose. However, $\frac{dx_1}{|\xi_2|}$ didn't equal to $\frac{dx_2}{|\xi_1|}$ on $\mathbb{R}^2$. Once you have fixed your "extension" of $d \mu_{\xi}$ onto $\mathbb{R}^2$, you cannot change that in the middle of an equation.