Judging from your question, I think you may be misinterpreting the sums. From left to right, you're summing over:
* The arcs that have "s" as their tail
* The arcs that have "s" as their head
* The arcs that have "t" as their head
* The arcs that have "t" as their tail.
In particular, the sums in the lemma do not involve any arcs that are not incident to s or t. Think of the left side of the equation as "net flow leaving $s$" and the right side as "net flow entering $t$".