The easiest way to get examples is to observe that nefness and bigness are preserved under pullbacks via birational morphisms, but ampleness isn't.
So let $Y$ be normal and let $f: X \to Y$ be any birational morphism that is not an isomorphism. If $A$ is an ample divisor on $Y$, then $f^*A$ is nef and big but not ample.
The simplest such example would be $f: X \to \mathbf P^2$ the blowup of a point, and $H$ a line in $\mathbf P^2$. Then $f^*H$ is nef and big, but it has degree 0 on the exceptional divisor, so it isn't ample.
Examples obtained in this way all have a special property: the nef and big divisor $f^*A$ we obtain is always _semi-ample_ , meaning that some multiple of it is basepoint-free (a.k.a. globally generated). But in general a nef and big divisor need not be semi-ample. Examples of this kind are more subtle: see Section 2.3 of _Positivity in Algebraic Geometry I_ by Lazarsfeld for a nice exposition.